So you didn’t bring L to volleyball at all last week. R told you (and I’ve told you many times) that we would help bring her if you were working or needed a hand. You have our numbers, just shoot us a text and we’ll be there. You sat in our house during our attempt at “better communication” (a plan I suggested) and agreed that it was important for L to try some new activities. We talked about how it was really healthy for her to try some physical activity as she enters puberty and how exercise can really help with self esteem and body confidence. We are paying 100% for all of her activities and always have. You said you didn’t want to spend the money on it, but you’d take her. I hear you also just ate out at Taco Bell several nights last week.
Apparently your promise was again a lie.
You also said you “are not having any new men in the house” this was also a lie since you had some new trashy guy staying in your house since about 2 weeks after the known felon/abuser moved out after the cops removed him because he beat you up. This one also doesn’t have a car and works at Applebees til he can “get enough money to move out”. Apparently the safety of your girls is not important to you since this is number what of how many strange men that have paraded through your house?? Shared a single bathroom with your little girls? Slept a few feet from where they sleep? I know of at least 5 in the past few years, so I’m sure it’s triple that. One of whom got you pregnant and he took off and you miscarried, one of whom you married then divorced 2 months later.
I’m letting you know that I’m just over the whole thing and YOU WIN. I have spent so much time and money trying to give L the best that I can. I buy her clothes and give her the best opportunities as if she were my own daughter. I make her shower, cut her dirty fingernails after she comes over here reeking like a barn because you have dozens of animals living in your house. I make her brush her yellow teeth and floss, since she obviously hasn’t brushed since she’s been at your house. L says you won’t buy floss. I buy her 18 new pairs of underwear because the when we were out walking the others were “cutting her legs” and had brown crotch stains because you don’t think it’s a priority to buy her new undies. I’ve given the benefit of the doubt to you for years that you are a decent person, but it has become abundantly clear that you are never going to change and become a parent who gives 100% for your children.
I will no longer fight to get L into activities, camps, programs, sports etc. I will no longer fight to get her to go to college, save for college, learn to cope with her dyslexia, talk to her about the world and urge her to aim high, do her best and hopefully be more than a lazy, weak woman who makes $8/hour wiping asses and fucking random losers who give her a few bucks for rent. By the way, you said a year and a half ago you were going to go back and get that certificate so you could make $2 more per hour – have you done that yet??
Oh and she needs a fucking haircut. What kind of mother doesn’t get her daughter a haircut? We’ve gotten every single haircut for the last 2 years, it’s your turn this time.
(We both know I won’t stop doing any of this, it’s just so hard sometimes.)